Same-sex Attraction
When
it comes to the delicate topic of homosexuality, are homosexuals really “born
that way” or is there another explanation? Being a homosexual is something that
has been frowned upon for years. Many have committed suicide, been rejected
from their family, and been rejected from society. This has led to another
extreme of societal pressure to accept gays just as they are, and support their
lifestyles. While many accept their lifestyles, I do not; however, I still have
extreme love for my brothers and sisters that struggle with Same-sex
Attraction.
To
look at the science of it, if homosexuals were “born that way” there would need
to be a “gay” gene, meaning all those who struggle with Same-sex Attraction would
need to carry this gene. Thus, it would be passed down from the parents,
biologically. That idea, however, was discredited when a study was done involving
twins. In order for the gay gene to be real, both twins would need to be gay
100% of the time. What they found was that only a small percentage of the time
were both actually gay. (View the following video about Understanding Same-sex Attraction.)
We can then see that SSA (Same-sex Attraction) is not a biologically passed
down.
There
are, however, components that can go into the many reasons someone might
struggle with SSA. For example: an atypical girl wanting to play with cars, or
an atypical male wanting to play with dolls. That’s just the way they were
born. Furthermore, there are other components that can go into SSA including a
child’s temperament.
To
continue, we learn that often (not always), SSA is acquired through various experiences.
In the video above, it states that there are certain ways SSA can be acquired,
those being: having a wounded sense of gender identity, bullying at a young age
(or any age for that matter), issues with the father figure in the home, mother
confusion, sexual abuse, lack of healthy touch, and pornography. Often what SSA
is, is really just a longing for social interaction, connection, and association
with members of the same gender.
From
experience, and people I know and love dearly, those reasons above are exactly
the case! Many of the LGTBQ community (and those not involved with the
community but that struggle with SSA) that I know have suffered some kind of
trauma in their life. Without even realizing it, that trauma has affected them
in some way, leading to same gender attraction. What an interesting phenomenon!
How
would our lives change if we though differently about SSA? How would we treat the
circumstances if we knew that SSA folk weren’t born that way? The video shows
many people that have changed simply by knowing that the “gay gene” isn’t real.
Would you change knowing that?
Now,
I’m not saying all SSA people need to change. Some have the struggle and will
have the struggle the rest of their lives. And that’s okay. It’s nice to
know we have a loving Heavenly Father that understands us perfectly, and will,
one day, remove that ailments from those who struggle in any way shape or form.
I look forward to that day, and hope you do too.
We’ve touched on some really sensitive topics
today, so will you comment below? What are your thoughts and feelings? I would
seriously love to hear from you!
With
some last words I ask, when it comes to gender and SSA, could there really be
another explanation other than being just “born that way?” Evidence has discredited
that idea and shows that there are many other reasons a person might struggle
with SSA. How does this new knowledge affect you? What are your thoughts?
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